Why You Struggle to Get Started

In our Level 2 workshop workshop, we show people a very simple but powerful way to get started and make progress, so they actually live their purpose — turn the decision into a reality, rather than just keep thinking about doing it.

This process helps overcome Limitation — which is the fear program trying to limit how many steps you take, so you don’t step too far out of your comfort zone. And Limitation will do the same to you, if you let it. But to understand how to overcome it, you first need to understand how it formed.

You learned Limitation as a toddler. First as a series of base fears that made you feel ‘unsafe’ in the world, and then a set of fears that made dread venturing out into it.

Because back then, it seemed, every time you crawled, toddled, or walked forward to explore your world, an adult stopped you, often told you off, picked you up, and put you all the way back to where you started from — then rewarded you for staying there (the comfort zone).

You learned that making forward progress was futile and overwhelming, but staying inside your comfort zone was rewarding and ‘safer’. You still carry that program of Limitation inside you as the fear of decisions, moving, progress, change, and being out of the comfort zone.

Now as an adult, that same program of Limitation doesn’t want you venturing out into the world, because it believes you’ll only be blocked or fail, and end up back where you started, so what’s the point of leaving that comfort zone in the first place.

So, to keep you ‘safe’ from all that, the fear program tries to limit the amount of steps you take, so you never move too far away from the comfort zone, so you never have to feel that futility or disappointment ever again.

There is where you’ll find yourself thinking:

“I can’t be bothered doing this now” (Apathy)

“I’ll do it later when things are better” (Procrastination)

“There’s just too much to do. It’s all too hard!” (Overwhelm)

“What’s the point” (Hopelessness)

for no apparent reason, and even if you really want to do it and get it done.

So you’ll struggle to get started, put things off till later, half-do things, skip steps, leave things unfinished, focus on too many things at once, distract yourself, or find some other way to basically limit your own progress.

That’s why you often struggle to get started.

The solution to this is so simple — do things step by step, one step at a time. And there is a specific way to do that, to better handle that fear, which we cover in Level 2

It gets you started, and keeps you going. You don’t need to feel ready. You don’t need confidence. You don’t even need to know how or where your journey ends. You just need to move — one step at a time — so you know it’s safe to make progress.

It seems so obvious, but you’ll be amazed how many people don’t — and then wonder why they feel so overwhelmed, can’t get started, or make real progress. When you look closely, they’re all doing the same thing: focusing on way too many things all at once.