Men & Woman Live Different Dreams

Men and women live different dreams, but to understand why, we have to look at how the mind works.

There are four essential needs of the mind — Adventure, Talent, Passion, and Optimism.

The mind is located in the body, stretching from the base of the spine (Adventure) to the top of the head (Optimism). The way the energy of the mind flows through the body determines what a person thinks, feels, and acts — the sum of which is a person’s behaviour.

Except the energy of the male and female mind tends to flow in completely opposite directions, giving them a tendency to live completely different purposes in life.

🚹 HIS PURPOSE

Let's start with men. The energy of a man’s mind flows from the base of the spine to the top of the head. Consequently, men tend to live their dreams from the base up, starting with Adventure and ending with Optimism. That doesn't mean men lack optimism. It's simply because his mind’s energy hits Adventure first and Optimism last. Adventure is the first thing he thinks about, which makes Optimism the last thing on his mind — literally.

When he does anything in life, his mind figures, “Hey! Let’s just do it (Adventure), step-by-step, the best way I know how, see if it makes me happy, if it suits me, where it goes, or whether it's possible (Optimism)”.

And because he heavily favours the bottom masculine centres of the mind, he is more likely to choose roles that favour Adventure (Spontaneity, risk, adrenaline, determination, single step focus) and Talent (Skills, training, goals, success, and trades) — and in many cases Passion (usually an individual expression of Talent). Very typical examples of that include fireman, pilot, tradesman, or rock star — respectively

And many of these professions are men living their own dreams, in their own way, to the very best of their ability, to achieve as much success as they can, to make themselves happy. It’s the man's way, but also why women often see men as impulsive, reckless, or even “selfish” – a man's behaviour is literally backwards to them.

🚺 HER PURPOSE

Now let’s look at a women’s mind, which does the opposite. The energy of a her mind flows from the top of the head down to the base of the spine. Consequently, she’ll tend to want to live her dreams from the top down, starting with Optimism and ending with Adventure. Women don't lack Adventure or courage. It's just that Optimism is the first thing she thinks about, which makes Adventure the last thing on her mind — literally.

Unlike a man’s more direct and ‘aggressive’ approach of, “Hey, let’s just do it now, and work the rest out later”, she’s more likely to think, “Woah! Hang on a second. Let’s think this through and way up the Pros and Cons first (Optimism), then make a plan, see if it suits people, if it's what others want to do it, if it's actually possible, and have all the steps have been considered — before we decide whether it’s “safe” or not to proceed (Adventure)".

And because she heavily favours the to feminine centres of her mind, she is more likely to take on a roles that favour Optimism (Understanding, compassion, planning, positive change), and Passion (Creative expression, emotional support, group dynamics, and communication) — and in many cases Talent (usually an individual expression of skills to help or assist others).

Very typical examples of that include the helper/carer, personal assistant, receptionist, creative design, advertising, nursing, teaching, counselling, safety officer, aged care, being a mum, and so on.

In short, a woman tend to take on support roles. She still lives her own dreams, but instead of living a self-orientated dream to make herself happy like men do, she’s often happier supporting the dreams of other people, to help make them happy, which then makes her happy — the caring, nurturing, supporting heart of a woman.

But that’s also why men often see women as slow to act, overcautious, or even “weak” — since a woman’s behaviour seems to be 'pleasing others', and that's literally backwards to them.

♀️♂️♀️ WOMEN SUPPORTING THE DREAMS OF MEN

This next bit might seem sexist to some, but it’s not. It’s biological realism. I am simply celebrating the inherent differences of the male-female mind, most of which are tribal, based on 50,000 years of evolution. I didn't make up the rules — nature did. There are always exceptions to this rule, but there is a definite trend here, and you’ll see what I mean in a moment.

The trend is: women often end up supporting the dreams of men. And I only point this out so women can see if it relates to them personally. If it does, it helps them define their purpose further. If it doesn’t, if helps them move away from the stereotypical roles women play, or are expected to play.

But here’s why this often happens. Women are very supportive of the needs and dreams of others — the mothers instinct. And men are often the ones out there living their own self-orientated dreams. Combine those two instincts together, and you often see women supporting the dreams of men. Simple.

But women don’t do that just to be servants to men — god forbid. Their minds subconsciously do that in service to self as well.

Men are the leading examples of the bottom centres of the mind. It's the furthest thing from her own mind, but it fascinates her. She loves to observe how men commit with courage, make so much progress, are so capable, and hold such staunch individuality — because she’s heading their herself, at some point in her purpose. So if she helps them get there, it helps her get there as well. It’s almost like she lives vicariously through the 'crazy' dreams of men, to help her gain more adventurous spirit — since that’s furthest thing from her mind, and less familiar to her.

And on a deep level, she also 'mothers' them. She loves to use her protective instincts and intuition to make sure none of the men she supports, does anything stupid … and they have a plan … and are more realistic … and there’s better communication … and everything's more balanced … and they’re more understanding of the needs of others ... and so on.

That’s her thang!

And you see women supporting the dreams of men in almost every area of business. It's very common. For example, the male electrician wires up the house, whilst his wife works in the office, running the business behind the scenes. The male surgeon fixes the body, and the female nurses look after the patient after the surgeon’s work is done. Male pilots fly the jumbo jet, whilst the female stewardesses look after the passengers. The wife stays home to look after the younger children, while her husband goes off to work.

Yes, yes, yes! I know there are female electricians, surgeons, and pilots, as well as stay at home dads, women only corporate teams, etc - but they're the exception, not the norm. Just take a look around! It’s a male dominated world, because men’s minds are more aligned with living the sort of dreams that dominate the world, and women's minds are more aligned with supporting them as they do.

Men aren't better than women, and women aren't better than men. They're just very different. Each has their strengths and weaknesses. But gee they work well together, and that's my point.

Ultimately, both men and women need to travel the full journey of the mind — just in opposite directions. And if they do that together as a team, naturally aligning with the strengths of their mind, in harmony rather than opposition, so that men proudly pursue their dreams, and women beautifully support them as they do — they both get to live their dreams together, balancing each other's minds, growing together, to eventually become whole.

Society seems to have forgotten that.