Men & Woman Live Different Dreams

Men and women often live different dreams, but to understand why, we have to look at how the mind works. There are seven centres of the mind — Adventure, Desire, Talent, Passion, Individuality, Inspiration, and Optimism — which is why we base a true purpose on those characteristics.

The mind is located in the body, stretching from the base of the spine (Adventure) to the top of the head (Optimism). The way the energy of the mind flows through the body determines what a person thinks, feels, and acts — the sum of which is a person’s behaviour. Except the energy of the male and female mind tends to flow in completely opposite directions, giving them a tendency to live completely different purposes in life.

🚹 HIS PURPOSE

Let's start with men. The energy of a man’s mind flows from the base of the spine to the top of the head. Consequently, men tend to live their dreams that way — from the base up, starting with Adventure and ending with Optimism. And that’s simply because his mind’s energy hits Adventure first and Optimism last. Adventure is the first thing he thinks about, which makes Optimism the last thing on his mind — literally.

When he does anything in life, his mind figures, “Hey! Let’s just do it (Adventure), step-by-step (Desire), the best way I can (Talent), so it makes me happy (Passion), and then I’ll share it (Individuality), plan it (Inspiration), and see how big it gets and if it’s good for me later (Optimism)”.

And because he heavily favours the bottom-three more-masculine centres of the mind, he is less familiar with the upper-three more-feminine centres of the mind. And let’s face it, men aren’t great at communicating their needs or expressing how they feel like women are (Individuality), they kinda suck at making plans and sticking to them like women do (Inspiration), and they definitely lack the caring all-inclusive compassion that women have (Optimism).

That’s what a man has to learn to do in his purpose – get in touch with his feminine side [cringe]. That's learning to express himself, communicate better, and understand the needs of others.

But men are more spontaneous and daring than women are (adventure), they’re more aggressively determined to get what they want than women are (Desire), and more likely to pursue skills-based trades and professions than women do (Talent). And that’s simply because that’s what the male mind favours. And in many cases, that includes Individuality as well, since Individual expression is still very close to a man’s heart centre (Passion), except a man will often express his Individuality as exceptional talent, rather than a women’s Individuality, which is often helping other people’s individual needs.

This is also why men often choose more courage-based, single-step focused, skills-based, self-passionate professions than women. Very typical examples of that include fireman, pilot, tradesman, or rock star, respectively.

And many of these professions are men living their own self-oriented dreams, in their own way, to the very best of their ability, to achieve as much success as they can, to make themselves happy. It’s the man's way, but also why women often see men as impulsive, reckless, or even “selfish” – a man's behaviour is literally backwards to them.

🚺 HER PURPOSE

Now let’s look at a women’s mind, which does the complete opposite. The energy of a woman’s mind flows from the top of the head down to the base of the spine. Consequently, women tend to live their dreams from the top down, starting with Optimism and ending with Adventure. Optimism is the first thing she thinks about, which makes Adventure the last thing on her mind — literally.

Unlike a man’s more direct and ‘aggressive’ approach of, “Hey, let’s just do it now, and work the rest out later”, she’s more likely to think, “Woah! Hang on a second. Let’s think this through (Optimism), make a plan (Inspiration), talk about it (Individuality), make sure everyone’s happy (Passion), see if it’s capable (Talent), make sure all steps are considered (Desire), and then decide whether it’s “safe” to proceed (Adventure)".

And because she heavily favours the top-three more-feminine centres of her mind, she is less familiar with the bottom-three more-masculine centres of her mind. And let’s face it, women don’t pursue skills-based trades and professions as much as men do (Talent), they’re more passive than aggressively determined like men are (Desire), and they’re less likely to chase ‘risky’ spontaneous experiences like men do (Adventure).

Consequently, that’s what a woman has to learn how to do in her purpose - getting in touch with her more masculine side, by making her dreams more about her own skills, progress, and experiences.

But women are a lot more optimistic and hence understanding of the needs of others than men are (Optimism). They have a much greater and very natural intuitive instinct and protective insight, than men do (Inspiration). And they have much better communication skills, and are much more in touch with their emotions, than men are (Individuality). That’s just what her mind favours. And Talent is still very close to a woman’s heart, except a woman will often express her skills and abilities in ways that help and support others, rather than doing so for success-recognition like men do.

All of which makes women very good at assisting people, communicating and relating ideas, helping to plan or organise their lives, and doing so with great care and compassion. This is also why women often take on more of a support role as a purpose, rather than living their own self-orientated dreams like men do. Very typical examples of that include the helper/carer, personal assistant, receptionist, creative design, advertising, nursing, teaching, counselling, safety officer, aged care, being a mum, and so on.

In short, a woman still lives her own dreams, but instead of living a self-orientated dream to make herself happy like men do, she’s often happier supporting the dreams of other people, to help make them happy, which then makes her happy — the caring, nurturing, supporting heart of a woman. But that’s also why men often see women as slow to act, overcautious, or even “weak” — since a woman’s behaviour is literally backwards to them.

♀️♂️♀️ WOMEN SUPPORTING THE DREAMS OF MEN

This next bit might seem sexist to some, but it’s not sexism, it’s biological realism. I am simply celebrating the inherent differences of the male-female mind, most of which are tribal, based on 50,000 years of evolution. I didn't make up the rules — nature did. There are always exceptions to this rule, but there is a definite trend here, and you’ll see what I mean in a moment.

The trend is: women often end up supporting the dreams of men. And I only point this out so women can see if it relates to them personally. If it does, it helps them define their purpose further. If it doesn’t, if helps them move away from the stereotypical roles women play, or are expected to play.

But here’s why this often happens. As we have described, women are very supportive of the needs and dreams of others. It’s the mothers nurturing instinct. And men are often the ones out there living their own self-orientated dreams. Combine those two instincts together, and you often see women supporting the dreams of men. Simple.

But women don’t do that just to be servants to men — god forbid. Their minds subconsciously do that in service to self as well.

Men are the leading examples of the bottom centres of the mind. It's the furthest thing from her own mind, but it fascinates her. She loves to observe men’s adventures, progress, skills, passion, and individuality, because she’s heading their herself, at some point in her purpose. So if she helps them get there, it helps her get there as well. It’s almost like she gets to live vicariously through the 'crazy' dreams of men, to help her gain a more adventurous spirit — since that’s furthest thing from her mind, and less familiar to her.

She can also use her protective instincts and intuition to make sure any of the men she supports, don’t do anything stupid … and have a plan … and are more realistic … and there’s better communication … and everything's more balanced … and they’re more understanding of the needs of others ... That’s her thang!

And you see this all the time — women supporting the dreams of men ... not always, but it's very common. For example, the male electrician wires up the house, whilst his wife works in the office, running the business behind the scenes. The male surgeon fixes the body, and the female nurses look after the patient after the surgeon’s work is done. Male pilots fly the jumbo jet, whilst the female stewardesses look after the passengers. The wife stays home to look after the younger children, while her husband goes off to work.

Yes I know there are female electricians, surgeons, and pilots, as well as stay at home dads, women only corporate teams, etc - but they're the exception, not the norm. Just take a look around. It’s a male dominated world, because men’s minds are more aligned with living the sort of dreams that dominate the world, and women's minds are more aligned with supporting them as they do.

Men aren't better than women, and women aren't better than men. They're just very different. Each has their strengths and weaknesses. But gee they work well together, and that's my point. Ultimately, both men and women need to travel the full journey of the mind — just in opposite directions. And if they do that together as a team, naturally aligning with the strengths of their mind, in harmony rather than opposition, so that men proudly pursue their dreams, and women beautifully support them as they do — they both get to live their dreams together, balancing each other's minds, growing together, to eventually become whole.

Society seems to have forgotten that.