The Perfect Purpose Does Not Exist

In our Level 2 workshop, we help people find their true purpose in life — which is whatever satisfies the four essential needs of the mind. But sometimes people identify a purpose that only satisfies two or three of those needs, and they start to worry that their purpose isn’t true enough, or perfect enough, to get started.

But believe it or not, there is no such thing as the perfect purpose in life — and if people wait to find it, they’ll never get started. Yes, it’s nice if it’s ‘right’, but it’s not such a big deal if it’s ‘wrong’ — not as much as people think it is.

What really matters is change.

As long as a person is moving forward — even if it’s initially in the wrong direction — forward movement creates change. Change leads to growth, and growth changes a person’s perspective and needs. Once their perspective changes, they’re far better able to see a newer or better path.

It’s like you sometimes have to go down the wrong track for a while, before you know what the ‘right path’ is.

That’s why making the wrong decision is often better than making no decision at all. At least a wrong decision creates change. No decision leads to stagnation, and stagnation is worse.

Stagnation happens when people become overwhelmed by change, and do nothing or not much at all — keeping them stuck in their comfort zone, doing the same things they’ve always done, in the same old ways, at the same level. This almost always leads to a life of dissatisfaction and boredom.

But if that same person instead decides to make a change in life — right or wrong — that change is almost always better than stagnation. Change teaches. It corrects. It reshapes perspective. It also almost always leads to somewhere better ... eventually.

And change is inevitable anyway. Most people get to a point where something gets so uncomfortable, they have to change. We’ve all experienced this. How many times has something in life gotten so bad, you've thought to yourself, "Screw this! I've had enough of this shit!" and made some sort of radical change? You fix the leaking tap, or quit the soulless job, or leave the unhealthy relationship.

That’s why following the wrong purpose can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. You cannot truly know what you want, until you've experienced what you don't want. So make the decision, create change in your life and see where it leads. You’ll quickly know whether it’s right for you or not.