The Childhood Fear Program

In another post, I talked about the True Purpose of life, which is the ultimate purpose to pursue. You can can read about it by clicking here. In this post, I’d like to show you what stops most people from finding or living their true purpose in life … and it’s fear.

Fear is one of the most misunderstood concepts on the planet (as is the opposite of fear, which is love), and so I’d like to first clarify what I mean by fear.

When I talk about fear, I’m not talking about rational fears, such as as a fear of snakes, fear of heights, or a fear of suspicious characters in dark alleys (especially if they’re carrying a snake!). Those fears are trying to keep you safe, and need to be respected.

What I’m talking about here are irrational fears – all the “silly” personal fears such as your fear of change, fear of criticism, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and so on. It’s a long list.

You’ve always had those fears, because you developed them in childhood. And I’m only going to focus on the negative aspects of your childhood in this blog post, because focusing on the negative is exactly what you did as a child, and exactly how your fears were formed.

You see, you weren’t born with fear. You were born perfect and pure, full of joy and love, which is why babies have such a “strange divinity” in their eyes.

Consequently, you didn’t focus on the positive stuff in your childhood – the fun, joy, peace, love – because it was just normal to you, and you mostly took it for granted.

Positivity simply meant everything was safe and OK in your world. Your beautiful little default-loving-nature loved it, expected it, needed it.

Negativity on the other hand, was absolutely terrifying to you. It was so foreign to your beautiful little default-loving-nature - so shocking, so unexpected. It meant, everything was NOT OK or safe in your world, and you focused on it intensely.

You focused on every scary sight, sound, or drama in your world. You focused on every negative put-down, problem, or person. You saw all the tears, fears, and failures. You also felt the fears of everyone around you, often perceiving them as your own.

And you eventually developed your own pattern of fearful thought – anxiety, scary dreams, the monster under the bed, etc – which you over-focused on as well.

And you didn’t just focus on them; you stored them! Your subconscious mind (fully developed at birth) faithfully recorded and stored every single fearful experience you focused on, at a staggering 20 million bits of information a second!

Those records formed into a series of fearfully-bias belief-systems about the outside world, people, and even yourself. And those beliefs were stored with none to very little conscious reasoning, and so most of them are quite silly and make no sense.

And those beliefs were stored in your child-mind, at the same time your child-brain was developing millions of neurons and neural networks every single day, which meant those beliefs were quite literally burned into your brain and hard-wired into your psyche.

By the time you were seven years old, your mind had already developed the following deeply subconscious, nonsensical, predominant, set of fear programs below. And the age-brackets below are just a rough guide. In reality, the cycles of fear are a lot more complicated than that, overlapping each other, bleeding into each other, feeding off each other “out of order”, and so on. But you get the idea:

attack and don’t know why — that’s infant Dread. It’s what makes people dread the adventure of life — especially living their true purpose. It’s the base of the entire fear program. And it’s the root cause of anxiety, phobias, apprehension, indecision, distrust, and scarcity.

This developed the deep subconscious feeling that progress is futile, and the comfort zone is more appealing — otherwise known as apathy, laziness, overwhelm, and hopelessness.

This belief is what makes people subconsciously limit their progress, and stay stuck in their comfort zone. It’s also the root cause of boredom, stagnation, and procrastination

This is why people put themselves down or are hard on themselves. And this is also why so many people never break through their own self-imposed glass ceiling to achieve greatness in their field. It’s also the root cause of frustration, impatience, self-doubt, and anger.

But true happiness only comes from within — positive thought. Anything outside of that is external and will fade, and the emotional-comedown makes people unhappier, driving them to chase even more fake happiness from people and things.

It’s a vicious cycle of fake happiness-highs and dissatisfying unhappy-lows. It becomes the root cause of unhappiness (emptiness, discontentment, dissatisfaction, depression, etc).

This belief is what makes people subconsciously live their dreams in ways that keep others happy, rather than doing what they really want to do to make themselves happy — and then secretly resenting others for ‘making them’ do it. It’s the root cause of depression, resentment, and unfulfilment.

This same subconscious habit is why people spend way too much time in the mind — out of the moment, worrying and regretting, overthinking, ‘off with the fairies’, or daydreaming about the perfect conflict-free life. They lose their true focus and direction. It creates absent-mindedness and accidents. And it’s the root cause of worry, stress, insecurity (future worry); and regret, remorse, and guilt (past regret).

This combined into the deep subconscious belief that fear must be normal — don't question it. This same belief makes people accept life without question or rebellion. And that ignorance is what allows fear to run amok in the background of the mind … without question.

The average fear program running in the background of a people’s mind can be summarised as the following:

I can’t do what I really want to do in life because:

“The world is a scary place, bad things happen, people can’t be trusted, and there’s never enough (Dread); so it’s too overwhelming to venture out into the world and make any form of progress (Stagnation); and I’m not good enough to do things well anyway (Mediocrity). Consequently, I can’t really enjoy myself, nor do I like myself as much anymore, and that makes me unhappy (Unhappiness). So I will make myself ‘happy’ again by seeking the external happiness (and things) of others; by doing what others expect me to do, to keep them happy (Conformity); planning my life around them, to avoid upsetting them (Distraction); and living the same life they do, without question (Ignorance).”

No wonder so many people don’t live their dreams!

It’s the biggest problem you don’t even know you have!

Did you know it’s why so many people don’t find or live their true purpose in life, and why they now have a subtle yet constant nagging dissatisfaction with their current life choices!

If you didn’t know — don’t feel bad. Most people don’t. But now you know. You may not have noticed yourself subconsciously thinking it, but I’m sure you’ve felt it, or seen yourself do it, or seen others do it.

So what do you do about it? How do you conquer fear? The solution is very simple: Do the opposite!

Your fear-program believes you can’t live your dreams because: the world is a scary place, progress is pointless, you’re not good enough, and happiness is external; so you need to do what others expect, plan your life around their needs, and live the same life they do. Therefore to beat it, you simply have to do the opposite, which would be:

Do what you’ve always wanted to do in life (Adventure); step by step, one step at a time (Progress); to the very best of your ability (Talent); so you enjoy what you do and it makes you happy within (True Happiness); so you’re less likely to need the external approval of people and things, and more likely to live your dreams in your own unique way (Passion); with your own unique focus and direction (Inspiration); to find your own unique truth (Understanding).

That’s your true purpose. That’s what you’re meant to do in life. That’s who you’re supposed to be as a person.

And living such a purpose will prove your fears wrong, gradually and permanently dissolving them, layer by layer. No therapy. No talking about your feelings. No delving into your traumatic past. Just living your fears out of existence, in the most fun way possible.

It's the secret to true lasting happiness. It's what leads to great talent and success. It creates more wealth and opportunity. It promotes better health. It gives your life purpose and meaning.

You can live that purpose any way you like - hobby, sport, club, passion. But the ultimate purpose is living your true purpose as a business or career — doing what you love for a living, and getting paid for it!

Living your true purpose will be the most exhilarating fun challenge of your life. It’ll change you — most of which will be proving to yourself in real life that the irrational fear that was previously holding you back from doing it … was bullshit all along!

But first you have to find it. That’s why I created the Finding True Purpose Workshop. It shows you how to find your own unique true purpose in life — the perfect business, career, or pastime for you. If you want to find out what you’re supposed to be doing with your life — it all starts here.